My late Psychology professor has reminded us to “keep your personal boundaries checked” all the time. It was an expression I never really understood back then because, I was too young to comprehend how it means before.
As we age, however, our comprehension skills, beyond the four walls of our classrooms extend to the so-called life’s struggles, its successes, and the miracles in between. This has nothing to do with any spiritual discussion but an appreciation of friends in our personal boundaries.
Personal boundaries are guidelines, rules or limits that a person creates to identify reasonable, safe and permissible ways for other people to behave towards them and how they will respond when someone passes those limits. (Wikipedia)
Let us not mistakenly mix our “social media” friends from our true friends. Whilst we can say that our true friends are included in the list of our social media friends, the latter must be identified clearly as friends in our personal boundary. This is important because identifying them will help us build and sustain our personal boundaries effectively.
Besides, is it not our ultimate goal to keep these true friends because they are worthy in our lives? Would you not agree that, no matter how big your circle of influence you thought maybe, there are but just few connections who can really inspire you to be a better person all the time? Absolutely!
We take pride in these few peoples’ successes whilst we cry with them in their distresses. Why? A simple reason actually: they make us feel human.
These few chosen people serve as conscientious reminders that:
- We are normal and it’s ok to feel pain
- That our stories are worthy (regardless how deep or shallow these can be). Besides, what could be the best story we can narrate than ours?
- Gratefulness over small stuff is positive behavior, to adopt it is healthy
- We have a good support system to keep us grounded and humble
- That miracles do happen and that we can do more than what we can today and tomorrow.
There are many reasons to be thankful for the gift of friendship and I salute few inspirational women in my circle whose resilience still amazes me down to these days. I’ve said it many times and I am saying it again: thank you for being a true inspiration for many because miracles are from extraordinary people whose passion surpasses all struggles big and small.
For that, I am grateful.
How about you? Would you like to share your stories?